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Closure is Sooooo Overrated
(Slamming society’s strange obsession with closing doors that are already closed and locked)
This one is a quick, but necessary read. It’s short, sweet and to the precise point I hope more of us can get.
Closure is not all it’s cracked up to be.
I hear it all the time. A couple breaks up. Someone is caught cheating. Two friends fall out over something serious. Someone is exposed as a traitor. And one of the parties says, “I just need closure.”
For what?
Look, I’m not knocking a person’s need to find answers to why this happened or why they did that to them. But closure? Not always so much.
Sometimes I feel that people say they are looking for closure when really they’re looking for a response that satisfies them. Sometimes they are looking for people to prove that they feel a different way about them than what they have already presented.
For instance, oftentimes people who have been wronged or betrayed by a lover want some sort of validation. They want to discover that maybe there is a chance for a rekindling or that the other person is someone other than who they have shown themselves to be.
But to me, closure takes place in dysfunctional relationships and friendships all the time before it’s even asked. Everytime a…
