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Gender Roles in Relationships?
(My theory on how men and women could co-create more functionally in relationships)
So today on Instagram, I saw a clip of a single man with one of those “blame modern women for everything wrong with society today” podcasts. He asked a male caller, who was obliterating his gender role ideas, whether or not he was married.
The caller explained that he had been happlily married for 20 years. The host asked him what the relationship roles were in his home. The the caller explained that his marriage doesn’t require roles because they simply do what needs to be done, teamwork. He said those roles didn’t exist.
The host was irritated with the caller’s explanation of what was obviously working right in his marriage. He was mad that a man in a happy relationship could dare not affirm his idea of roles.
Just last week, a man found his way into my private messenger to tell me that he was “attracted to me” but not my “radical” views, none of which I have (Out of the box thinking is often mistaken for radical). When asked to explain his position, he indicated that he thinks “men should be men and women should be women”. What he was really saying was that he defined men and women by what they are to do, not who they are as humans or souls.
